“My marriage to [first wife] Sheila was monogamous. Anita and I had an open-ended relationship. For a short period we experimented with every kind of sex […] Anita marveled at my sexual appetite. She often saw me as a reincarnation of Pan, the seducer. […] Ed Sanders opened his novel ‘Shards of God’ with me out-fucking a machine in front of the Pentagon. Whereas Jerry Rubin’s published sexual history consisted of trouble getting it up, my problem is keeping it in my pants.
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Equality between the sexes implies working out sexual relationships with a good deal of creativity and love. The more discussion the better. This has been hard for both males and females, but I think the women’s movement is a healthy step up the human ladder. Biology should never be accepted as a political argument. Evolution promises equality, and revolution is the individual commitment to that process. […] The division of labor which insists that men hunt, that women nurse and cook, will fade into the past. Eventually even our unconscious mythology will evolve. Sex is politics and as such revolutionary sex demands justice. Sex is play and as such seeks enjoyment. It’s fair to say I balled my way through the movement, but in your standard double-standard way was faithful to Anita. I never stood her up. Hedonistic communism seems to me not a bad program for bedrooms or, for that matter, for governments.
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We lived as a couple. We talked intellectually about the advantages of communal living but somehow just never met the right commune. […] Besides, communes fall apart quicker than couples. Our relationship outlasted almost all our friends, we never fought and, romantically, believed it would go on forever.
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The movement, coming in the sixties as it did, was simultaneous with the sexual revolution. Because of increased mobility, greater exchange of information, and changing work patterns, the nuclear family did break down. There was a lot of sex in the movement but only in contrast to the repression that had been the history of sex. A new morality began to evolve as a result of the cultural break-up. There was a certain excitement in the fresh air. […] Sex is pretty much a mysterious adventure. In about thirty of forty years I’ll have something to say on the subject. Right now I enjoy it too much for extended discussion.”